Safety before Strategy
Regulate. Resolve. Grow.
My Mission
To provide a safe, professional space dedicated to nervous system regulation,
where you can move from a state of distress to one of clarity,
with the freedom to truly grow.
What safety first looks like
at Free to Be
Our nervous systems allow us to do our best work when we feel safe, secure and validated. Nervous system regulation happens most naturally when you are in control of your own experience.
To ensure you feel safe, secure, and validated, we are committed to the following:
Autonomy: We are not here to give advice or opinion about your issue.
Pace: We work at your speed.
Choice: You are the expert in your life.
Collaboration: We are a team. We are not here to judge you or your choices.
Transparency: No hidden agendas or surprises.
Boundaries: Your privacy and emotional comfort are our priority.
When the nervous system is supported, growth and freedom are likely outcomes.
Life Coaching:
Looking outward
The Pathway to Growth.
Life Coaching is about making and working through an actionable plan to move you safely from where you are now to where you want to be in your future - even beyond the goal.
Align: Connect goals to your true values and strengths.
Vision: Look towards the future to the life that exists beyond your goal.
Plan: Build an action plan and strategies for "tricky" moments.
Celebrate: Honour every success, no matter the size.
The frequency of our work together is completely up to you. This is your journey and I are here to believe in you and support you as you work towards the life beyond your goal.
Click here to learn more about Life Coaching
Solution Focused (SF) Counselling:
Trainee Counsellor
The Pathway to Clarity.
SF Counselling is helpful when you feel stuck in your problem and need to find the way out using the "tools" you already have.
Discover: Uncover your values, strengths and the moments when you have more power than the problem.
Perspective: Separate the problem from your identity to reclaim your sense of self.
Simplify: Break down complex barriers into manageable steps.
Resolve: Shift from "Why is this happening?" to "What can I do now?"
Reclaim: Return to a state of capability, resilience, and calm.
As a trainee counsellor and student member of New Zealand Association of Counsellors my work is professionally supervised to ensure the highest of standards.
Tomatis®:
Tuning the system
The Pathway to Emotional and Sensory Resilience.Tomatis® is a sensory approach that works directly with the nervous system to unlock the door out of survival mode (protection mode). It provides a powerful, non-invasive method for nervous system regulation, moving you from protection into a state of growth and resilience.
Calm: Using filtered sound to gently stimulate the Vagus Nerve and reduce the overwhelm of emotional and sensory dysregulation.
Listen: Retrain the ear-brain connection to improve focus, communication, and emotional regulation.
Integrate: Support ADHD and neurodiversity by helping the brain process sensory information more efficiently.
Balance: Improve posture and motor skills by engaging the vestibular (balance) system.
Restore: Return to a state of calm and clarity with the logical brain back "online," achieving deep nervous system regulation without the need for traditional "talk therapy."
Not sure which pathway is right for you?
Let's find the right starting point for you.
It's common to feel like you need all three services at once - or to feel too overwhelmed to choose just one. You don't need to have the answers before we chat.
I'm here to help you decide which service will take you where you need to go right now.
The Introductory Call
A free 15 minute chat to connect and help you decide which service appeals to you.
We will discuss your current situation and determine whether you priority is Growth (Coaching), Clarity (SF Counselling) or Regulation (Tomatis®).
You will leave the call with a clear recommendation and a clear plan that respects your nervous system's capacity and your needs.
Client Testimonials
"My life has now changed for the better I never ever thought my mind would feel so clear and tame. I can now go out and about without worrying about my bowel and anxiety."
Mark, New Zealand
Client Testimonials
"My anxiety is now under control and I am able to think more clearly and logically. I am not consumed by negative thoughts like I was before seeing Debbie."
Tina, New Zealand
Client Testimonials
"Today I was walking around in a very crowded area in a big city ...and I felt great!! No panic or anxiety ..just the freedom to be present with life and my friends. It felt just like I used to be ... I was safety conscious of my belongings by not intimidated by people.
I felt alive and truly had an awesome day. Thank you so much ...I am so grateful🙏for the gift you have given back to my life❤️
Michelle, New Zealand
Client Testimonials
"I have a greater sense of peace and better connections with people which has led to less of a life struggle overall."
Fran, New Zealand
Client Testimonials
"It has been a few weeks after my final session with Debbie and I am honestly feeling so good and far more balanced than I was previously. I am really starting to notice changes in things that we worked on and I also have a better understanding of situations around me."
Bea, New Zealand
Client Testimonials
"Working with Free to Bee was the best decision I ever made.
I had bad anger management problems and thought no one could understand me or help me. Debbie was amazing in helping me and getting me back on track to the life I would like myself to have and to enjoy."
Kane, New Zealand
Client Testimonials
"I can smile when I look in the mirror and celebrate every small step as it happens. The work I have done with Debbie has given me the power to accept who I am, to be proud of who I am and what I have achieved and the strength to follow my dreams, living my life in powerful peace."
Michelle, New Zealand
Client Testimonials
"My favourite areas of my work has been the work we did on values. This was an incredible session that rocked my world because it opened up a whole arena of how to go forward in life.
By knowing my values I now know what my goals are. I’ve been able to take on things I wouldn’t have been able to before with confidence."
Nicholas, New Zealand
Please Note:
Free to Be is not a Medical or Mental Health Agency or Service. We are not qualified medical or mental health professionals. Our training is to help clients move beyond life challenges that they believe are holding them back, so they can experience a greater quality of life.
As a qualified Life Coach, we welcome people wanting to improve their quality of life.
As a student or trainee Solution Focused Counsellor we support people wanting to improve their quality of life, through honouring their past to create change in the present and their future.
We are trained in Tomatis® auditory retraining and are passionate about Tomatis support for ADHD and other neurodiversities, emotional dysregulation and burnout.
While our services may contribute to increasing a person's overall resilience and ability to thrive despite life's challenges, it is not a replacement for medical or mental health help, support, diagnosis or advice.
If you are in crisis or looking for a mental health service for trauma, addiction, or abuse of any kind, please click the link below for a list of agencies providing assistance.