ADHD Support with Tomatis®
You are not your emotions or disorganisation, you are living within the capacity of your nervous system.
Tomatis® Method
- Aligning Regulation with Organisation
Sometimes the chaos of life through - sensory overwhelm, a racing mind, or feeling constantly on edge can make it feel impossible to focus on self-growth or future goals. When your nervous system is in survival mode, pushing through can become overwhelming and exhausting.
The Tomatis® Method is our Foundational Pathway. It is a sound based programme designed to settle the internal storm of emotions and dysregulation by retraining how your brain processes information. By working directly with the connection between the ear, the brain, and the nervous system including the Vagus Nerve, we address the physiological roots of your stress response. This allows us to facilitate deeply embedded change in how your mind and body experience stress rewiring the neurological disorganisation from the ground up for greater peace, increased productivity and an improved quality of life.
This isn't about fixing who you are, it's about providing the foundational stability and clarity you need to feel calm and grounded.
Together we will:
Assess your current experience: We start by looking at how your nervous system and executive function are impacting your daily life, identifying where the dysregulation is most disruptive for you.
Map your foundational goals: Whether you are looking for more emotional calm or capacity, improved focus and organisation, or improved ability to communicate, we clarify what a "regulated" life would look like for you.
Customise your listening journey: using the Tomatis® Method, we create a sound-based program tailored specifically to your brain's processing needs.
Settle the internal storm: Through consistent listening sessions, we work to retrain the ear and brain to process information more efficiently and stay grounded under stress.
Building lasting organisation: We monitor your progress as your brain learns to better organise thoughts, manage emotions, communicate, and complete tasks.
ADHD Support with Tomatis can be life changing.
It's about calming the internal storm for greater emotional regulation, capacity and clarity.
ADHD Support with Tomatis® is about gently 'rewiring' the part of your brain that struggles with remembering, time management, impulsivity, emotions & organisation.
Debbie's Personal Tomatis® Experience
For as long as I can remember, my world felt like I was dancing to a different tune. Growing up, my mother did her best to parent an excessively talkative, hyperactive (often described by others as naughty or attention-seeking), overly sensitive, impulsive younger me who had no concept of time and rebelled against structure and authority figures - including her. It wasn't until I became a parent and noticed our child struggling with very similar challenges that I began looking for answers.
We found the Tomatis® Method, which significantly changed our children's lives and our family dynamics. The results were so incredible that twelve years later, I began a program of my own. It was only after my brain began to change that I was able to understand how my impulsivity, lack of emotional regulation and increased sensitivity to rejection, as well as other characteristics, had impacted my life - and my family's lives too. Being able to experience my life with these characteristics now manageable is liberating.
These characteristics will always be part of who I am. However, now that I manage them, rather than them managing me, life is less stressful, less overwhelming and infinitely calmer.
My experience is the foundation of my "Why".
My purpose is to help others, who are navigating a similar path, find their sweet spot in life without losing who they are.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is the Tomatis® Method?
The Tomatis® Method is a form of auditory training.
It's a gentle, natural process that uses specially filtered music to stimulate the auditory and vestibular systems and the brain through both bone conduction through the skull and air conduction through the ear.
The goal is strengthen the ear-brain connection to improve the way your brain processes information, using the principle of neuroplasticity—the brain's ability to reorganise itself by forming and strengthening new neural connections.
A special feature of the Tomatis® Method is that the Vestibular system is also stimulated during the listening sessions which has a positive effect on balance, rhythm, co-ordination and movement.
How can listening training help with common ADHD struggles?
By strengthening the ear-brain connection, the Tomatis® Method helps the brain to process sound more efficiently. This frees up the brain's valuable resources that were previously being used just to "try" to listen, allowing them to be reallocated to executive functions like sustained focus, emotional regulation, and working memory.
The brain has three networks, the Default Mode Network where our attention is inward focused and the Central Executive Network where our attention is outward focused. The switch between the two is the Salience Network which directs how and what our brain pays attention to. The Tomatis® Method works in the Salience Network area of the brain as well which is why it is so effective at changing what our brain pays attention to and how our brain navigates the inward and outward processes we experience in life.
How are hearing and listening different?
The Tomatis® Method is designed to increase the capacity of the brain to listen, not to improve hearing.
The two are distinctly different.
Here's how:
Hearing is a passive, physical process. It's the involuntary act of your ears receiving sound vibrations and sending them to the brain. You can hear a siren or a conversation in the background without any conscious effort.
Listening is a conscious, active, and mental process. It's the brain's job to process and make sense of the sounds you hear. Listening involves choosing to pay attention to a specific sound, interpreting its meaning, and deciding how to respond to it. It requires effort, focus, and other cognitive functions.
What does a Tomatis® session actually involve?
During a session, you listen to music through specialised headphones for a specified length of time over a number of days.
The headphones use both air conduction (through the earpieces) and bone conduction (through a small vibrator on top of the head).
The sessions are typically very gentle and relaxing, and you can simply sit, read, or entertain yourself quietly away from devices and screens.
Each programme is broken down into 3 mini-programmes or 'cycles' of listening with evaluation between each cycle so that we can optimise your programme as your listening profile changes. No two peoples listening, progress or outcomes are exactly the same!
Can the sessions be done from home?
Yes. The program is designed for convenience and flexibility. We will program your Maestro headphones or the TalksUp device so you can complete your listening sessions from the comfort of your own home.
You will need to be able to visit me in person to conduct the listening evaluations and have your headphones or the TalksUp device programmed each step of the way.
We will then check in regularly to monitor your progress.
Can this be used alongside medication or coaching?
Absolutely. The Tomatis® Method is a powerful complementary program.
While medication and coaching work on the how characteristics impact a person with ADHD, the Tomatis® Method works on a foundational level, to regulate the nervous system and enhance prefrontal cortex function through neuroplasticity.
A multi-faceted approach can support the benefits of other treatments and therapies.
How much does it cost?
Tomatis® Method - dependent on needs and length of the programme.
Maestro Programme - for two listeners
Maestro Headphones $900 (Two person use)
Each loop of listening $600 (Three cycles are recommended for optimal change)
TalksUp Programme - for two listeners
Infinite headphones $550 (Multi-person use)
Each cycle of listening $700 (Three cycles are recommended for optimal change)
Special Offer to honour Dr Tomatis and his Philosophy:
One parent is offered a complementary listening programme when purchasing a three cycle programme for their child.
NOTE: Some clients have been successful in gaining funding for the headphones where children have government funding for their particular neurodiversity.
Is the Tomatis® Method suitable for everyone?
The Tomatis® Method does have a few restrictions.
1. Children whose Fontanelle is not completely closed should not wear the headphones. (A child's fontanelle is generally closed by the age of 2.5 years of age).
Instead, Bone Conduction Kits are available which do not use headphones for small children and people who are unable tolerate wearing headphones for any reason.
2. People who experience or have experienced:
•Epilepsy
•Severe depression
•Meniere's Disease
•Bipolar
•Schizophrenia
•Alzheimers
•Parkinson's Disease
•Dementia
•Calcification of inner ear bones
Should contact a Level 4 Consultant in their country for further advice on their suitability to a customised Tomatis programme.
It's easy to connect with Debbie!
Step One
Book in for a friendly chat today.
Email: debbie@freetobee.co.nz
Mon - Fri 9am to 5pm
Phone: 027 230 2310
Step Two
Work with Debbie to navigate your unique challenges in a way that is meaningful to you and focuses on your strengths.
Step Three
Live life in a way that is authentically you, with increased self confidence for a more fulfilling future.
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Client Testimonials
"The Tomatis program has literally changed my life. I have stopped interrupting people when they're talking and can now stay focused on what is being said especially in busy places like cafes. I am also much calmer, sleeping better and my IBS has totally disappeared. I just feel happy and contented instead of tired and stressed."
Mary, New Zealand
Client Testimonials
"The biggest change for me is that now I can focus for sustained periods of time without being distracted by every noise in the background. My head feels clearer and I'm not nearly as exhausted as I used to be at the end of the day."
Geoff, New Zealand
Please Note:
Free to Be is not a Medical or Mental Health Agency or Service. We are not qualified medical or mental health professionals. Our training is to help clients move beyond life challenges that they believe are holding them back, so they can experience a greater quality of life.
As a qualified Life Coach, we welcome people wanting to improve their quality of life.
As a student or trainee Solution Focused Counsellor we support people wanting to improve their quality of life, through honouring their past to create change in the present and their future.
We are trained in Tomatis® auditory retraining and are passionate about Tomatis support for ADHD and other neurodiversities, emotional dysregulation and burnout.
While our services may contribute to increasing a person's overall resilience and ability to thrive despite life's challenges, it is not a replacement for medical or mental health help, support, diagnosis or advice.
If you are in crisis or looking for a mental health service for trauma, addiction, or abuse of any kind, please click the link below for a list of agencies providing assistance.
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